For a long, long time, I was super embarrassed to admit to my friends and family that I'd started looking for a serious relationship online.
"What will they think?" I thought.
What if they think I'm a loser. What if they think I'm only looking online because I can't find a woman in real life. What if, what if, what if...
Well, the truth is, I tried "real life." And it's real fake...
Dating scenario #1: You go to a bar, lounge, or club. It's too damn loud. Girls get all dolled up, and half the time it's too dark to see what she really looks like. And what's worse — you can't even hold a conversation with her because you're standing next to a speaker blaring David Guetta so loud you'd think he weren't played out yet.
Dating scenario #2: You go to the book store. This is actually a little bit better. Inside of a book store, at least you know that she's actually looking to expand her knowledge about something. Which is a good start. But the problem here arises when you two are incompatible across too many variables and are into totally different things...
- You like mountain climbing; she likes getting her nails done.
- You like SUVs; she hates anything that's not a hybrid.
- You're not into Jewish chicks; her last name is Rosenberg.
(Side note: nothing against Jewish folks. It just sounded funny. You could easily replace it with Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Hindu, etc... and besides, if it offends you, you should unsubscribe and stop reading my blog, because you probably can't take a joke :-)
Dating scenario #3: You meet her online. This was a real winner for me. Here's why: where else can you go and specify — exactly what you're searching for in a woman (or man) — and be presented with a narrow list of potential women that are already pre-qualified per YOUR own specifications? Where else can you find that?!? Once I got over the weird feeling of looking for love online, I really started looking...
And eventually, I found my beautiful wife, Amna via Match.com.
On today's episode of The Meaningful Show Podcast, we share some lessons learned about online dating, to help you figure out whether it's worth it based on what you're looking for out of a relationship.