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If you lookup the definition of self-discipline, you’ll usually see something like this: Self-discipline is the power to get yourself to take action regardless of whether you feel like it or not. Developing self-discipline requires a willingness and capability to act — regardless of your current emotional state.
All of this is true. But it doesn’t go far enough…
Self-discipline is more than simply doing stuff that you don’t want to do… Behind all of that surface-level stuff, there’s usually a deeper, more meaningful reason why you’re interested in developing self-discipline in the first place…
My definition of self-discipline goes like this: Self-discipline is about self-imposed, deeply personal, intrinsically-motivated behaviors repeated regularly enough such that they become part of your moral fabric, your code of conduct.
Throughout this article/podcast, we’ll be focusing on how to develop self-discipline based on the above definitions. By the time you’re finished, you’ll have three specific actions you can start taking today to develop the disciplines you need to achieve your goals and improve your life.
Let’s say you really want to discipline yourself to become an early riser.
Tonight, when you set your alarm clock to wake you up at 5:00AM, you’ve set a disciplined intention to rise at that specific time.
Now, when the alarm goes off the next morning, do you tap the snooze-button, or do you pop out of bed and begin your day?
At this point, some people may say, “But what’s five more minutes?“
Five more minutes means you’ve been unfaithful to yourself…
Your self-disciplined intention—that promise you made to yourself the night before to rise at five—is broken the moment you hit snooze.
You’ve started your day with a negative score.
And you’ve set the tone for more slips of self-discipline, to let more of the little things slide.
But the little things add up…
Which is why I’m here to say: YES—sometimes you do need to sweat the small stuff…
Because the small stuff prepares you for the big stuff.
How can you make a million dollars if you can’t make a thousand?
How can you workout five days in a row if you can’t workout for five minutes in a row?
You start with the little stuff, and work your way up.
You begin with one push-up, and if that’s all you can do then that’s all you can do. Tomorrow, you build on that.
And by next week, you’ll do three push-ups…The week after that, you’ll do five. And before you know it, you’ll be doing fifty push-ups in a row.
It’s staggering how big the little stuff becomes.
I’ll never forget the first time I walked into the gym to seriously begin lifting weights. I hoisted a 20lb. dumbbell over my head and it fell straight back down and hit me straight in the forehead. It literally almost knocked me out!
I was trying to do an overhead tricep extension, but I almost ended up laid-out and extended on the gym-floor.
So, I learned I had to start small, and work my way up.
So I picked up 5 lbs... A few months later, I was doing that exercise with 10 lbs. And now, several years later, I use 20lb. dumbbells to warm-up with. I’m telling you, it’s staggering how big the little stuff becomes.
Now let’s get back to the bed… Mind over mattress.
What if you actually jumped out of bed with energy and intensity the moment your alarm clock goes off?
Now you’ve set the tone for a day of disciplined action.
Oh, and by the way, it’s not about waking up at 5:00AM that matters, it’s about waking up at whatever time YOU promise yourself you’ll wake up that matters.
Self-discipline is about maintaining integrity between yourself and your own personal promises.
This one simple thing: getting up when you intend to get up—and doing it the first time—is both a small win and a big win at once…
It’s a small win because it’s a small and simple action: alarm goes off, you get up.
It’s a big win because it helps you gather the momentum you need to tackle the more challenging things you’ll come across throughout your day.
Self-discipline. It’s a skill so scarce in our modern-day culture—one in which people are both starving for attention and incapable of giving it—that being a person of self-discipline would be like having a f*cking super-power.
So how do you develop this super-power?
1. Imagine your ideal self.
This is the highest version of yourself. Who do you want to be? What do you want to do, experience, and have? How do you want to live your life? What contributions—small-scale and large-scale—do you want to make in this world? What kind of work does your ideal self do?
2. Describe and envision the behaviors and practices associated with this ideal version of yourself.
What disciplines must you develop to live in the shoes of your ideal self?
3. Transform your disciplines into habits.
Self-discipline is a simple game, but that doesn’t make it an easy one…